To be successful there has to be pain. Well how else are we to know that we are surviving, struggling or thriving to achieve our goals and be successful?
Success can be defined in a number of ways and contexts. In can be in terms of financial, work, health, being happy or peaceful. Success can also be in terms of maintaining a loving relationship. Success is determined by our goals that we put in place either in a structured or unstructured manner. These goals will be driven by needs which are perceived, imposed, created, required or indeed inspired.
What underpins success can be what gives people meaning, values, belief systems, experiences, people, environment and so on. In other words, what is genetically encoded or what we learn. Success can be generally classified from the perspective of the following life domains, namely Work, Relationships, Personal and Community. At different stages in one's life, these life domains will have a different or stronger emphasis.
Success can bring happiness, joy, torment or pain. Generally our appetite for happiness can push us to do things which may contradict our higher and positive values. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be successful. It is a temporary state which can evoke different emotions and these emotions can then affect they way the mind works. When we are elated, we strive to work hard at achieving our goals, however when a mood of resignation or hopelessness kicks in, that is we are struggling in terms of achieving our goals, then our actions can be stalled or questioned.
We all have a past which we are going to draw on and often these experiences can have associated regrets and learnings. It is ok to bring baggage, that is check in baggage that is going to help with our learning and growth. Check out the baggage that is associated with regret. In doing so, one will still carry some joy and pain from the past.
Moving into the future, looking at achieving a person's life goals, it is going to evoke generally a couple of emotions, namely anxiety and excitement. In terms of time, one cannot determine and state specifically what the outcome is going to be. In other words, you can't do much about the future other than the present moment. It is only in the present moment that one can plan and shape the actions that are required to achieve one's goals. However, the challenge would be to have the "presence of mind" to do that. This presence of mind requires a person to "design their thinking", to be more Agile, Confident and Resilient in planning and acting on their plans to achieve their goals and as a consequence being successful.
Essentially in designing a person's thinking with Agility, Resilience and Confidence, there are four phases or "D"s. Discovery, Defining, Developing & Do.
'Discovery' is about deep self introspection, enquiry and reflection. 'Defining' is defining clearly what is the goal and the areas of focus and action. 'Developing' is about developing the options for those things that are excessive and need to be reduced and those things that are deficient and need to be introduced. 'Do' is where actions are implemented with structure, flexibility, indicators and flow.
"You change and the world around you will change. Change the texture of your thoughts and your life will change”